DEAR LOIS LANE

My female pal Lois Lane was spazzing one night. I take no responsibility for her being off target, but here are her comments:

 Q: After sitting and pondering what happened...my jealousy got the best of me but to me someone who wants to get married with me should not be adding single women on a chat site.

 

Lois Lane: He did that after she rejected him sexually, he knew it was over.

 

Me: We're built for the jungle, and the Lois Lane who loves Tarzan BECAUSE of it rather than IN SPITE OF IT is the girl we love. Just as well, Lois Lane could get interested herself in the wide world of sexuality. Study it, read on it, communicate about it. There is always more to know.

 

Lois Lane: Lois Lane is better off finding a Tarzan who shares his sexual interests with her, not hides out and gets off to chat room antics.

 

Q: I think that his rush for me to get off the market and fall in love with him almost instantly was also a mistake.

 

Lois Lane: Absolutely, temporary, just wanting to play. Maybe it develops and surprises him but initially, don't fall prey.

 

Me: As for being swept off your feet, thats kind of a 10th grade princess fantasy, isnt it? Did he have a white horse too?

 

Lois Lane: BS, romance is important especially to keep a love affair fueled. Not just for him either, both parties should be trying to sweep each other off their feet, makes it special, makes the sex phenomenal and keeps them horny for each other and emotionally happy with each other.

 

Q: When  he talks business he's full of passion....but it was boring stuff. I tolerated it. He was fun to be with made me laugh but he also embarrassed me a lot as he was quite loud and seemed to joke around a lot embarrassing other people.

 

Lois Lane: She just wasn't that into him, he knew it.

 

Q: He has a violent temper. When we argued he would overpower me with his voice and basically hang up when he knew he was losing.

 

Lois Lane: Again, what the hell is she complaining about losing this one for...bad sex, public embarrassment and emotionally abusive...sounds like a perfect match.

 

Me: Just to help with the feeling of claustrophobia I felt inside a relationship. It was good to know I had the freedom to talk ...

 

Lois Lane: (talking and dating are very different)

 

Me: ...to other people, and having that freedom made me love the woman I was with all the more.

 

Lois Lane: If relationships are too claustrophobic for either party then the relationship is probably not going to survive. When I feel that, it's because I know I'm not that into it, want a way out and meeting others and dating others is just an avenue, helps pave the way.

 

Q: If he really loved me as he said he did and wanted to marry me he would make up for it but his immaturity and maybe his fear of real commitment is tearing him away.

 

Lois Lane: She doesn't want it more than he doesn't...she's so not into him but I guess she feels guilty, not sure what her problem is.

 

Q: As for me did I really love the man or was it the thought that someone of his stature could love someone like me. Was I infatuated by the thought of being in a real relationship. The thought that I could tolerate some of his weaknesses and flaws. That I had found someone who was a friend and a lover. I don't know but I am very angry now and am at the point that I am not taking the lies anymore. I don't want it to end but I do. When a man says he loves me OK but when he asks me to marry him....nope playing around stops at all levels.

 

Lois Lane: When she said yes he probably expected her to actually be in love with him, clearly not the case...and he clearly wasn't dumb.

 

Q: Am I being too harsh? I fluctuate in my feelings for him. One side of me says Yes and the other side says No. I am so depressed over this. I have the opportunity to go out with several men on MySpace and other sites and even some repeat boyfriends have come back in the picture but I have been holding off because I can't seem to get him out of my mind. Can you give me some advice?

 

Lois Lane: What she can't get over is her mistake, leave myspace, don't go backwards, meet new guys and take it slow.

 

Like I said, Lois Lane is a whacko, but hey, a female point of view never hurts...