THE PUSSY-WHIPPED EX-HUSBAND

THE CASE OF THE PUSSY-WHIPPED EX-HUSBAND

Dear PBAB,

 

My man doesn't stand up to his ex-wife!  I think he’s actually scared of her. He'll stand up to me but not her. They share custody of their daughter. He'll agree to be flexible with her but she is not always flexible with us and he seems to scared to ask. It always gets contentious on the phone with them. I feel so powerless over this. Do I confront him on this and ask him why he won't stand up to her and why he will to me? Is he more concerned about keeping her happy or me?

Frustrated Squeeze Feeling Squeezed

Dear Squeezie Girl,

 

I put up with this complaint from my own girlfriend concerning my own bitch-on-wheels ex-wife. A woman has attorneys on speed dial and can always find a way to create bullet-proof excuses for disallowing child visitation. That's awful, but it even gets worse. She can poison the child's mind against the father. So if your guy treats his ex carefully, remember, he's like the bomb squad. One false move and BOOM, there goes his daughter. Naturally, children get older and more aware, and the foolish ex-wife eventually suffers just as one woman I know did who tried to poison her son's mind against the father. He left home at 14 to live with his father and never spoke to his mother again, and now she is the one crying the tears of loss.

Now YOU, dear girlfriend, can be replaced. Perhaps not easily, but with some effort. My counsel to you is to be supportive to the point that you can barely stand it.

If you can't, do him a favor and leave.

As for me, the next time my girlfriend complains about my controlling ex, I'll toss her out of my house for a week and let her feel what "alienation of affection" means.

PBAB, the Bomb Squad Guy

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