SEPARATION ANXIETY

 

SEPARATION ANXIETY

Dear Author Dude,

What's the proper amount of time between one's last lovemaking session and bringing up the subject of divorce?  I believe our last lovemaking session -- if you could call it that -- was Wednesday or so. It mostly consisted of her barking commands and me going along like a robot, as usual. In any case, I am planning to have a deep and meaningful conversation with my wife very soon about some indiscretions of hers that I have been made aware of, and was wondering if there is a set time one should have between lovemaking, and, if it comes to this, asking for a separation  So, I hope it doesn't come to this, but can one ask for separation if he just had sex?

Sexed but Seeking Separation in Seattle

Dear Sexed,

Good question, bro, and obviously you've put some thought into this.

In your situation, I'd blow off the "meaningful and deep conversation with the wife" and communicate with actions. Just move out and take your stuff. In short order your wife will want to know what the deal is. Tell her you will communicate by email (this is great because you then have a record of it for your attorney).

Sit down with some attorneys and protect your assets and income, if not for you, for your kid or kids so you have some money to take care of them during the time you have them. So many men blame themselves during a divorce and say they'll just let her have everything. Don't doit, bro! You'll regret it later.

Hopefully your attorney will be a father's rights advocate and can protect you more than you can protect yourself.

Go on to be a good ex-husband and co-parent. If you do this right, you can even become friends again with your ex and someday you can even laugh about it over a pot of coffee or bottle of wine.

Good luck, pal. Let me know how it goes.