CLUELESS ABOUT SEX

MIDDLE AGED AND CLUELESS ABOUT SEX

 

Dear Author Boy,

 

 

I am 32. I have been single for 3 years on and off. I have been introduced to a couple of guys by friends, met a guy on the seafront, met another in the supermarket and met 4 internet dating last year and one recently. I was very careful with the guys on the internet and spoke and e mailed for a couple of weeks and met safely during the day with friends aware of my location etc.

 

I have taken things very slowly which each guy I have met but they all have one thing in common! Each of them seemed really nice and genuine and I did my homework before getting involved with two that I did.

 

I have been horrified most have been married or have an ex on the scene or just openly looking for sex. I am just so outraged at what seems to be the 'norm' nowadays. I find it really upsetting that guys seem so flippant and so calculating about sex. I feel I am losing my faith in men. They have all been professional ok looking guys who seemed genuine and honest. What am I doing wrong?

 

Crying in Croyden

 

 

 

Dear Whimpering,

 

 

Here's what you're doing wrong. You're 32 and acting like you're 16. Get over it. People have sex on the third date if they like each other. Stop acting like sex needs you to do months of homework.

 

With an attitude about sex like yours, you should investigate if you are not heterosexual. Most normal women have sexual desires and are all too happy to get sexual attention from "nice" men they are dating. Either you were sexually abused as a child, making sex seem unsafe, or you are a homosexual (not that there's anything wrong with that). You should explore your feelings toward women. Explore a little bit and find what makes you tick, or else before you know it you will be 52, alone, unfulfilled and bitter about it.