POST PREGNANT LOSS OF LIBIDO MAKING HUBBY JUMPY

Dear Playboy Author Boy,

Is my husband thinking about cheating on me or leaving me?  My husband and I have been together for five years, married for two. We have 3 kids, 4, 3 and 18 mos. We have always had a decent relationship and he has never complained about our sex life before. We have a lot of stress right now with the kids and building a new house.  I also have a medical condition which I recently had surgery for, so I haven't been feeling the best lately, I ended up getting an infection from my surgery.  This also makes sex painful. I would say that we have sex 2-3 times a week. My husband acts like I am making up the fact that I don't feel well and doesn't ever take care of me or help out around the house, so I am left to take care of the kids, myself and the house and it is exhausting! Especially since I have had the infection, I have just been wiped out. So I basically crawl into bed every night and fall asleep. He is upset that I don't approach him to have sex, I am upset that he seems to care less how I feel and sex is the last thing I want to do with him!  So what do you think, am I about to lose my husband?

Worried Sexless in Wyoming

Dear Worried,

This complaint dogs every marriage with children. Consider it the turbulence a jet experiences going through the sound barrier. Every man has a difficult time realizing he has sworn to only have sex with ONE woman and that woman is telling him NO for apparently a long time. This broke up my first marriage because I wasn't mature enough to deal with it. To me it seemed like one big bait and switch. My wife got what she wanted -- big house, kids, stay at home situation. What did I get? Bills, all the responsibility for earning the money, and my Johnson in my hand. It  creates resentment in bushels.

Now, if you survive this time, good for you. It can get better again.

But odds are from what you're saying about your ex, he is not one of those guys who will happily give you some room.

I would not bet on your marriage lasting the decade. Sorry, but that's how I see it.