EMAIL FLIRTATION WITH A MARRIED GUY ~ WILL I BURN IN HELL?
Dear Playboy Author Boy,
I'm married, is it wrong if I sent another married this email?
He sent an email to everyone at work that he was going on vacation for a week. I replied back to him:
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Enjoy your time off.
Are you okay? You don't seem as happy as usual.
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I've been sad lately because I have feelings for him and I can't be with him, so I've been avoiding him. I think he's been feeling the same as well. I just want to see him happy again. I want to move on because I can't be with him, but at the same time I don't want to see him hurt.
Do you think this email was inappropriate?
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Enjoy your time off.
Are you okay? You don't seem as happy as usual.
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I've been sad lately because I have feelings for him and I can't be with him, so I've been avoiding him. I think he's been feeling the same as well. I just want to see him happy again. I want to move on because I can't be with him, but at the same time I don't want to see him hurt.
Do you think this email was inappropriate?
Flirting Badly in Flemington
Dear Flirt,
Nothing wrong with your email from an official work point of view, so no, you won't get in trouble for it.
Even his wife could see it and you'd be okay.
However, you know your own motivations and you also know that the real problem is not your feelings for this guy -- that's a symptom that your marriage isn't working.
I see this all the time. People lust for and hunger for someone outside their marriage, then get divorced, and that person they wanted so bad -- turns out they suck. Most affairs don't turn into post divorce relationships because once people are free, they want someone who satisfies all their needs, not just the bedtime ones.
Post-divorce, you find out what and whom you really want and need, and if you know what you're doing you find it, and all this anguish fades away like a lame nightmare.
Even his wife could see it and you'd be okay.
However, you know your own motivations and you also know that the real problem is not your feelings for this guy -- that's a symptom that your marriage isn't working.
I see this all the time. People lust for and hunger for someone outside their marriage, then get divorced, and that person they wanted so bad -- turns out they suck. Most affairs don't turn into post divorce relationships because once people are free, they want someone who satisfies all their needs, not just the bedtime ones.
Post-divorce, you find out what and whom you really want and need, and if you know what you're doing you find it, and all this anguish fades away like a lame nightmare.
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