Dear PBAB,
There was this older chick who was letting me bang her. I do not consider myself an attractive man, not bad, not handsome, I am overweight and self conscious. I don't believe I am a great lover. She told me that a smart woman will not go for the man who can have any woman because she will always have to wonder, she will go for the man who truly appreciates her. She also told me that if I am self conscious, any woman I meet is MORE self conscious, don't worry about it. Just be yourself and they will love you. Is that true? Was she just stroking my ego?
Nervous in North Jersey
Yo Nervous Dude,
That was probably true about her and it would be true of a subset of women.
Women are as different as cars. They don't all even have the steering wheel on the left side! What's true for one is only true for her.
But if a woman you loved told you that all you lack is confidence, that is a great data point. It means you can be successful with other women.
Certainly not all women, but no man is great with all women.
You must determine what your type is. Do you like brainy chicks, sporty chicks, dyke chicks? Tall, short? Slender, muscle-bound, chunky, voluptuous? Blonde, redhead, brunette? Talker, introvert, psycho? Figure this out, and then only go for those women. As you do that, you will find that the women who are NOT your type love you and the ones who are your type snub you.
Why is that? To the women you don't like, you appear more confident. Confidence is killer for chicks. A woman will throw herself at a confident dude, no matter what he looks like.
So then, my friend, start treating women you like just like the women you don't. Treat them like dirt. They will worship you.
PBAB
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Dear PBAB,
Now I know what you've been doing with your free time.
Interesting...
Fan Club Pres
The only time women respond to men who mistreat them is when they lack self esteem or self confidence. You started out on the right track...all women are different and all people usually respond to confidence in others. It's comforting and attractive. But to say that once one determines their type, they should then snub them or treat them like dirt...unless their type is seriously lacking in self confidence for whatever reasons...the response will be in kind at best. Men and women both are attracted to those who seem hard to get etc. But beyond the initial phase of attraction, if one turns that into a childish game of treating the object of attraction with less than the true desire felt, then the attraction will be quickly diffused. (Again, unless the object is, for whatever reason, lacking in self confidence, feels that they deserve to be treated poorly....classic abuse victim mentality.) So to the nervous gentleman...seek out healthy individuals who share your interests and with whom you feel mutual attraction for and if you lack confidence yourself, make conscious efforts to see yourself positively and find reasons to be confident or make changes you think you should to boost it. Men who treat women as recommended, end up with exactly what they deserve.
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