IS HUBBY QUEER?

IS HUBBY QUEER?

 

 

Dear Playboy Author Boy,

 

About 6 weeks ago my husband told me he thought he was gay. Then he tried being with gay men, twice, but he didn't feel right with the men so now he thinks he is probably not gay. He has decided to never watch gay porn again and to not be with any males ever again. Two questions 1. could he still be gay but just not into "one night stands"? and 2. how can I just go back to normal life/sex with him. I feel really weird about it, like maybe that's why he's been sexually dysfunctional all these years (married 27 years). Thanks for your help. I'm pretty stressed.

 

Dysfunctionally Dissed in Detroit

 

Dear Dissed,

 

He's gay. Just like in heterosexual situations, you are not attracted to 90% of the opposite sex. So in people who are just now admitting they are gay, they can't just pick anyone and try a sexual experience to confirm their homosexuality -- they must first have sex with someone who attracts them! That is what can help decide the issue.

 

However, gay porn plus three decades of sexual dysfunction PLUS having sex with men -- albeit unsuccessful sex with men -- means he is gay.

 

Time to give up on this man. Try to transition your relationship to a friendship and encourage him to keep trying to find what his "type" is in other men and then try sex again.

 

Obviously, stop having sex with him, as you would risk HIV or AIDS from potentially unsafe sex.

 

Good luck and get counseling to help you transition out of this nightmare and into a healthy heterosexual relationship. Warning, often closet lesbians choose men who are closet homosexuals, so you need to look in the mirror and determine why you picked this guy and then why you stayed with him.