THE CASE OF THE PUPPY PEEING ON THE CARPETING LOVE

THE CASE OF THE PUPPY PEEING ON THE CARPETING LOVE

 

Dear Playboy Author Boy,

 

My boyfriend and I are both 19.  We met in high school. We have been together over a year now and I’m still so in love with him! It’s like being in love with my best friend. We've talked a lot about getting married and finishing college together. The thought is wonderful! I know I’d be happy with him for the rest of my life! We've been putting off telling our parents and friends, (mainly I’ve been putting it off), but now I think I may be putting off telling people because of different reasons. I’m re-thinking our plans. I’m not sure if I’m ready to get married in the next few years. Just lately I’ve been crushing on cute guys I run into at the gas station, or at work. I’d NEVER cheat on my boyfriend, but should these 'crushes' be telling me something? I certainly don’t want to break up with him either. I’m too scared to let him know how I’m thinking because these feelings I’ve been having may hurt him. Am I over reacting.. HELP!

 

Sweet Young Confused Thing

 

Dear Confused Born-Yesterday Girl,

 

You say, "I know Id be happy with him for the rest of my life!"

 

Wrong. Spend a few days reading about the agony of most marriages, even when both people are grown up and ready.

 

This is puppy love. If you stay with him, by the time you are 22 you will have outgrown him.

 

Growth happens explosively fast all the way into your 40s and two people never grow the same way.

 

Ask anyone who is married. You'll get the same answer.

 

Your "crushes" are an inner voice telling you to taste life. So get out there and taste it. And don't worry about hurting him. If he is honest, he will tell you he is experiencing the same thing.

 

Or, you could ignore all the adult advice, throw your life away, get married, have kids, and wonder why that guy at work looks so delicious and feel the agony of having married too soon. Your move.

 

Let me know how it works out for you.

 

PBAB