DEAR PLAYBOY AUTHOR BOY,
I'VE BEEN WITH MY BF FOR 4 YRS WE HAVE A BABY GIRL TOGETHER WE HAVE OUR OWN PLACE AND I HAVE EVERYTHING IM SO SPOILED I'VE NEVER CHEATED ON HIM FOR 3 YRS BUT THE 1ST 2 YRS THATS ALL HE DID WAS PLAY ME. NOW I LIKE TALKING TO OTHER GUYS EVN THINK BOUT CHEATING ON HIM. BUT SEE NOW HE HASNT CHEATED ON ME IN A VERY LONG TIME WHY AM I DOING IT NOW I DONT ALL THE TIME I DO IT ONCE IN A WHILE I DONT HAVE SEX WITH THEM BUT STILL...... IT STILL CHEATING! WHY AM I DOING THIS HES MY HEART & MY WORLD & I DONT EVER WANT TO LOSE HIM HOW CAN I STOP AND WHY AM I DOING THIS?
HELP ME,
CAPITALS GIRL
Dear Cap Chick,
You're doing this because on a subconcious level you want out. You love him but you don't love him any more. You're probably young and feel like this is not a guy who you can forsake all others for. Realize that having a kid is such a transporting experience for a female that your personality is not really set until after one to three children. After that, you are not really the same person you were when you courted your husband. I see this all the time. The female uteris wants one man, but her heart wants a different kind of man. The urge to procreate is primal and your glands fiercely fight to get that guy into your life so you can have his kid, but once you have given birth you realize that all the genetic tags that made you want him are for the survival of the species, not for your heart's desire. This is why there are so many divorces after kids, and why so many women are in happy marriages to men they meet after they turn 40 and their kids from their first marriages are teenagers.
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