THE CASE OF THE MASTURBATING HUBBY

THE CASE OF THE MASTURBATING HUBBY

 

Dear Playboy Author Boy,

 

Within in the last few days I have been dealing with this. For the last few years I felt like something just wasn't right with our marriage. Honestly I felt like he was having an affair. Small things would happen, unexpected phone calls, folded letters in his pocket after I did the laundry so I couldn't read them. Come to find out, he wasn't having an affair, he was masturbating to porn 4-5 times a week. Our sex life had taken a drop over the last year because I felt like something wasn't right. He didn't tell me about anything until I questioned him about 20 pairs of underwear that I found hidden in our home. I don't know how many women feel like me, But after I found all of this out, I feel betrayed, I feel like I have been compared to women that I will never be. Not to mention that the fact that he lusted after another woman. What’s sad is that I am a very attractive woman, have a two children, and I still get hit on every where I go. How do I deal?

 

Signed,

Neck Deep in Spunked Underwear

 

Dear Unspunked Girl,

What happened in your marriage to cause this change? His sexual focus turned from you. I'm not saying this is your fault, but obviously something happened that disappointed him in bed. What changed?

 

Think about it. If you had a child, you probably started concentrating on the kid rather than your previous focus on the sexual relationship.

 

Since he has used self-pleasure and porn, he has avoided cheating. True, his sexual energy turned away from you, but perhaps he was reacting to lack of your availability.

 

If this is NOT the case, then you have a different problem. He no longer finds you attractive or is falling out of love with you, or perhaps he is suffering from resentment from some issue, perhaps a fight you had that you won and he lost and he feels emasculated.

 

Bottom line is SOMETHING in this marriage changed. You can never complain about a spouse without taking into account what you contributed. Remember, you picked this guy, fell in love with him and singled him out to marry and to forsake all others for. WHAT CHANGED? WHAT HAPPENED?

 

Think about it.

 

PBAB