All my friends are getting married! This year 4 of my friends got married, we are all 30, and I feel like something’s wrong with me! Why am I the last one? or maybe it wont even happen?
This happens to all women and if you were to interview them ten, fifteen or twenty years later as I did, to a woman they are bitter about how they got married because of the stirring of their ovaries or the competitive influences of friends who were getting married.
Marriage shouldn't be a game of musical chairs. Nor should it involve timing.
Here's what my grandmother, may she rest in peace, commanded my older sister -- love guys, live with a guy, have sex with him, get a dog with him, buy a house with him and if you absolutely MUST, have a baby with him but never, ever get married to him! You'll regret it inside ten years, guaranteed.
Naturally my sister ignored the advice. And ten years later she was going through a nasty divorce.
Further to the issue, my friend's wife went through what you are going through, and she totally wanted a baby. She married my pal as a result. When they were splitting up, it became clear that in addition to the musical chairs thing, she suspected correctly that she was not heterosexual. She was beginning to realize she was a lesbian and the idea terrified and disgusted her and she still has trouble with the idea. Now divorced, she is happy in her single life and nary a man in sight, nor does she want one. She hasn't gotten involved with any women -- her upbringing was a little too strong for her to allow herself to do that.
I mention the above because sexual orientation is not always something that is obvious.
Good luck.
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