DIVORCE ~ CRAZY TIME

 

Dear Author Boy,

My best friend is cheating on her husband.

My husband and I are best friends with this other couple. My husband and the other husband own a business together.

The wife (28 yrs old) came to me and told me she had cheated on her husband several times with a guy who works at our business. I told my husband. We have not told the other husband. The guy (20 yrs old) who she is cheating on with lives with them.

She has gotten to the point where she will not leave the house when we all go out because she wants "alone" time with the guy. She has now left her husband and as taken the kids with her. The husbands mother lives with them because of her health conditions. The wife cannot stand his mother.

She has told the husband, the only way she will come back if he puts his mother up somewhere else to live and if he changes. She is totally reversing the roles to make it look like its him and not her cheating. What do you do in this situation? 

Confused and Holding the Bag

Dear Bag Girl,

For starters, you stay out of it. Friends get split during a divorce and sometimes friendships end, possibly because people are at their worst in a breakup and even if they are saints they exhibit horrible character flaws during the crazy time that is a divorce. In your case you pretty much have to take sides because of the business, so you "belong" to the groom, but remember, HE picked this woman, HE decided to forsake allothers for her and planned his universe around her of his own free will, so he contributed to the fall. You don't know what actions he took to help this disaster along. For all you know, the mom-in-the-box trick was a tactic to torture wifey, and having the young stud bunk in was a set-up to get her to stray so he could take the high moral ground. I'm not saying that is the case, but I am saying you know nothing of what truly happened in the marriage. No one does, not even a surveillance camera would give you that insight.

So back off, support the husband, and wait for people to regain their senses after the splitup.

One thing though, your business partner is apt to start screwing up at work, making mistakes, and perhaps even embezzle. Like I said, people sort of step out of their usual personalities during a divorce.