Dear Author Boy, Is it ok to talk to another man while you're separated? I'll be separating from my husband. My head and heart has already moved on. While i came to this decision, i've met a guy that i'm really attracted to .Its just been friendly chit chat. But, now the emails are becoming more frequent and we get along great. He knows i'll be separating from my husband . I really like getting to know him. I am still married but i know eventually i want to divorce. Is it ok to be talking to him? Should i not have contact with him anymore?
Wondering in Wisconsin
Dear W,
You can pork another person when you're separated. Pork away. But get ready. People you are attracted to when you are done with a marriage rarely hold interest beyond a few months. Once you get used to being single you'll want a guy who satisfies all your needs, and usually when you are emerging from a stale marriage you just concentrate on the things you were missing.
Example. Take a marriage to a smart guy with a good career. Say the marriage goes bad sexually and there is just no sex. When you emerge from that, you focus on finding hot sexy, sexual guys. For a while you just want to get laid. But a year or three later, you will find yourself missing having a smart guy and good conversation about his interesting career. Eventually you find a guy who is the whole thing, the real deal, a fully functional relationship partner.
Good luck.
Example. Take a marriage to a smart guy with a good career. Say the marriage goes bad sexually and there is just no sex. When you emerge from that, you focus on finding hot sexy, sexual guys. For a while you just want to get laid. But a year or three later, you will find yourself missing having a smart guy and good conversation about his interesting career. Eventually you find a guy who is the whole thing, the real deal, a fully functional relationship partner.
Good luck.
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