HOW TO DEAL WITH A MALE STALKER

HOW TO DEAL WITH A MALE STALKER

 

If you read the story of Banker Sweat Girl, you’d be interested to know that she threw some sex at the kind of guy who is really devoutly religious and probably secretly thought it was wrong and dirty outside marriage.  She must have thrown some very juicy moves at him because he became absolutely hooked.  After they broke up (on my advice) he texted her every day at least 20 times, and on weekends up to 100 times.  I told her to not read them.  She couldn't.  I told her to get a new cell phone or a restraining order.  This is part of the danger of being alluring and not hesitating to throw yourself into great sexual relationships, then moving on.  Here's how it has to be done.

 

Break up with a solid, "This relationship is over, honey."

 

Then distance yourself from all communications for 15 days.  Text, voice mail, email, calls, smoke signals, and in-person stalking (in which case, remember the number for 911 -- write it on your palm if you have to so you don't forget!).  That is about 3 half-lives of sexual mourning for men.  A woman who is our nostrils on day zero, by day fifteen she's usually a distant memory.  If she's in our hearts, it could be 15 months, but in 15 days we're at least functioning rationally.  The heartbroken seize on all communications and do not listen or understand the words, just the sound of the voice and that communication happened.  A mind in grief is a strange thing, it misinterprets all over the place.

 

No matter how tempted you are to rebut accusations that you're an ass, don't do it.  Just be silent.  Take the slaps on the cheek if you deserve them.

 

After 15 days, if you still get communication, send a message like this:

 

“STOP IT.  If you continue to harass me I will be requesting a restraining order be placed on you pursuant to New Jersey State Law's Prevention of Domestic Violence Act.”

 

 

By the way, the links for some of this info: http://www.womenslaw.org/NJ/NJ_how_to.htm#The%20New%20Jersey%20legal%20system;%20a%20quick%20overview

 

http://www.state.nj.us/dca/womdvcrt.htm

 

http://www.njcbw.org/legalreliefs.htm