Is She "ONLINE NOW! SURFING FOR BOY SLUTS!"???

Dude,

My lady friend and I have been together for 2 months and I'm wondering why she's still hitting match.  Should I ask her about that?  I don't want to appear insecure but WTF!?

Radar in Rockaway

 

Dear Radar,

Excellent question!

Beware the following bear traps:

1.      She may be on Match to see if YOU are showing a banner that reads ONLINE NOW! SURFING FOR SLUTS!  Sounds really stupid but more than one woman I knew spied on her guys all the time!

2.      She may be on Match to show your profile to her family or girlfriends.  Like, see, this is the great guy I’m dating.  Except when you pop up, there you are…ONLINE NOW, SURFING FOR BETTER SLUTS THAN THE ONE I’M DATING!

3.      She may be in her aol or yahoo email, simply answering emails by stating, “sorry, I can’t go out with you but you should hit on my girlfriend slimy_slut_2000” or “sorry but I’m seeing someone.”  When she does this, FROM HER HOME EMAIL, Match will show her active within an hour.  This baffled me and I experimented with it.  If she comes on her own email and answers one email on Match, it could still show her inactive.  But somewhere between 2 emails and 10, the Match system will show her as active within X hours.

4.      Women can get squirrelly about withdrawal from Match or profile hiding.  Once I hid my profile and the girl freaked out, thinking that I was taking her over!  She may worry about what would YOU do if SHE hid her Match profile.  The easiest thing to do is…nothing at all.

5.      You can withdraw and cancel your Match account but it will still show you current and active since the time you signed on to cancel.  The only way to disappear from Match is to (a) hide your profile and (b) cancel your account.

6.      Monogamy is a touchy subject.  Any time a female would mention it, I would start going on a rant.  Even bringing up the subject can be a problem.

7.      If you’ve dated for two months, it might be time for “the talk.”  You know, that talk where you broach the subject of, “are you dating anyone else?  If not, do you still want to keep your options open?  Should we just focus on each other?”  Beware of this backfiring on you because now YOU won’t be able to (a) surf for sluts on Match or (b) keep her guessing.