Thursday, June 26, 2008

MISSION STATEMENT FOR LIFE

Mission Statement for Life

I  wrote a mission statement for my life just to  see how it would come out.  Here it is:

 

To lead a balanced life characterized by meaning, energy, integrity, courage, honor and dignity with a sense of humor and humility, in faithfulness to the ten clauses below:

 

1 career - to craft a meaningful career in which I contribute meaningfully and avoid events of taking shit from clients or management while having fun and a few laughs.  Develop meaningful mutual relationships in a network of colleagues who will assist me in continuing this career and the eventual successful transition to retirement.

 

2 relationship - to craft a meaningful mutual relationship with a woman whom I love and cherish characterized by sensuality, sexuality, respect, and love.

 

3 children - to nurture and coach my children to their own lives of success and happiness, sacrificing when needed to achieve the goal of raising each child to be his or her best self.

 

4 recreation & health - to find and keep toys in my life that will help me recharge and be happy and keep my life in balance; to take care of my physical well being so that the days of my life are lived in health and vigor; to project an external appearance of health and strength that matches my internal development of strong character.

 

5 financial management - to command my personal finances so that I am debt-free and able to pay for the good things in life; to have enough money for comfort and to support the needs of my career, my relationship, my children, my recreation and my health; to govern my personal finances so that my life is not wasted or consumed in useless worrying about money.

 

6 relationship with creator - to foster a relationship with the creator of the universe and to walk with him, in recognition that my existing is for a reason and that the reason has meaning in the greater context of the construct of the universe; to find a greater understanding of the meaning of life in communion with the great eternal spirit as I am able to perceive him; to obtain strength and wisdom and courage from this spirit to enable me to live this life, which can so often become frightening.

 

7 writing career - to write to please myself and understand the universe in ways that will please me, my fellow man and the creator, and if possible, to make this writing pass on what I have learned to those who come after me.

 

8 death with honor - to live my life without having decisions made for me and to continue that life until I can die with honor, without clinging to the biological infirmity of my body at the end of my healthy time on earth; to die with courage and dignity without consuming the resources of my family and by doing so to demonstrate to them and to those observing me that the meaning of life is living it in health and vigor and not grasping in desperation for any breath possible; to realize when my body is no longer able to continue in strength, to gracefully relinquish my life.

 

9 wartime provision - to recognize that certain times in life become a war against dark and evil forces, both external and internal, during which my entire life force will be concentrated on fighting the battle to survive; during these times I pledge to fight as a warrior and never surrender to any force of evil; to protect myself, my relationship partner, my children and my friends from these dark forces; and to recognize that during times of war, my devotion to the other nine clauses of this mission statement will suffer temporary neglect; I pledge to be gentle with myself during times of war for my failure to uphold the principles of this mission statement, but to attempt to recover effectively, energetically and quickly when the war is over.

 

10 conclusion - in all things I will try to conduct my life with energy, integrity, honor and devotion to the people and principals that have meaning in my life.

 

Monday, June 16, 2008

Is She "ONLINE NOW! SURFING FOR BOY SLUTS!"???

Dude,

My lady friend and I have been together for 2 months and I'm wondering why she's still hitting match.  Should I ask her about that?  I don't want to appear insecure but WTF!?

Radar in Rockaway

 

Dear Radar,

Excellent question!

Beware the following bear traps:

1.      She may be on Match to see if YOU are showing a banner that reads ONLINE NOW! SURFING FOR SLUTS!  Sounds really stupid but more than one woman I knew spied on her guys all the time!

2.      She may be on Match to show your profile to her family or girlfriends.  Like, see, this is the great guy I’m dating.  Except when you pop up, there you are…ONLINE NOW, SURFING FOR BETTER SLUTS THAN THE ONE I’M DATING!

3.      She may be in her aol or yahoo email, simply answering emails by stating, “sorry, I can’t go out with you but you should hit on my girlfriend slimy_slut_2000” or “sorry but I’m seeing someone.”  When she does this, FROM HER HOME EMAIL, Match will show her active within an hour.  This baffled me and I experimented with it.  If she comes on her own email and answers one email on Match, it could still show her inactive.  But somewhere between 2 emails and 10, the Match system will show her as active within X hours.

4.      Women can get squirrelly about withdrawal from Match or profile hiding.  Once I hid my profile and the girl freaked out, thinking that I was taking her over!  She may worry about what would YOU do if SHE hid her Match profile.  The easiest thing to do is…nothing at all.

5.      You can withdraw and cancel your Match account but it will still show you current and active since the time you signed on to cancel.  The only way to disappear from Match is to (a) hide your profile and (b) cancel your account.

6.      Monogamy is a touchy subject.  Any time a female would mention it, I would start going on a rant.  Even bringing up the subject can be a problem.

7.      If you’ve dated for two months, it might be time for “the talk.”  You know, that talk where you broach the subject of, “are you dating anyone else?  If not, do you still want to keep your options open?  Should we just focus on each other?”  Beware of this backfiring on you because now YOU won’t be able to (a) surf for sluts on Match or (b) keep her guessing.